My friend, Chris Venn (http://www.chrisvenn.com) and I were talking awhile back about his idea that what we really need in life is Truth and Love. I’m sure he’s been having this conversation with others, and it’s one that is well worth exploring. The idea rang true to me. When either or both Truth and Love are missing we are in trouble. Like a lot of things that I really get engaged in, this is an idea this is simple and elegant at first glance that cascades into a deeper concept. Allow me to delve into it a bit more before I add money to the mix:
Truth: for me truth usually means something that is always the same, as opposed to belief which can be mostly the same. In what Chris and I were discussing, I think truth is more about the absence of fantasy or illusion. I’d hate to have to admit how many time in life I held out hoping something would be different than it was—I chose to believe my dreams instead of the reality in front of me (and yes, that does have to do with relationships with others). So truth is what we really know for sure, right?
Love: My interpretation here is that Chris and I were talking about compassion, caring, thoughtfulness, generosity, etc. Loving as a way of being with oneself and with others, not so much the romantic thang! And for me, love and being loving have something to do with living in my values. Treating others and myself with respect, compassion, and caring.
Okay, now with definitions in place, what’s this got to do with money? Everything!
Money just tells the truth. It can’t help it. If it was an actual person, that person would be incapable of lying. Now, I don’t mean that we can’t use or spend money chasing illusions, we do that all the time! But Money itself doesn’t lie. It tells us we are chasing an illusion. Well, actually it doesn’t come out and say, “Hey there you! You are chasing an illusion!” Instead it says, “You just spent this much money on that item.”
For those of you who are as old as I am, Money is like Sgt. Friday in Dragnet: “Just the facts, ma’am.” Now I’ll admit he was grumpy, and terse—check this out (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AMIZGrgWOO4) —but, he’s also all business (and pretty funny to me).
So that brings us to the emotional part, doesn’t it? Love is certainly an emotion, and Money doesn’t actually have emotion, in and of itself. So how does Money help with that? It will reflect your emotion, by showing you how you choose to use it.
It’s actually one of the gifts of Money. There is no ‘spin’ on Money, except what we put on it. It’s the most neutral source for us to see what we are up to. That parental voice in your head that says you shouldn’t spend money on THAT, whatever ‘that’ is, isn’t your Money, it’s your inner critic! Money, unlike your mother, or your spouse, or your friends, doesn’t actually have an opinion about what you are up to. All it does it tell you what you are doing—without judgement.
That’s a really good thing to know, and use. It’s a source of information, right there, under your nose. If life is not rolling along well for you, Money can will tell you where things are wonky. You have to do the interpreting. Money says you bought yourself a new car. You need to notice what the car means to you, what it is reflecting. Do you love it? Is it about status? Did you somehow settle for a car you don’t like? What’s going on? All that is your part, the application of Love and Truth—Money’s job is that Joe Friday gig of “Just the facts, ma’am.”
Shell Tain, The Untangler
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