Are you afraid of being greedy? Are you worried that there is a part of you that might want to take all the dolls? Eat all the cake? Cheat others out of their share?
Many clients have expressed that fear to me. Here’s what I know to be true: If you are worried about being greedy, then you aren’t really capable of it. The worry itself points to your awareness of the greed. I think that people who are truly greedy don’t actually think of it as greed. They think of it as their reward, what they have earned, what they have a right to.
Sure as young children we all may have been chastised about being greedy or selfish. It was part of how we learned to share. Sharing is a way of supporting the group as a whole, and not being selfish. All well and good.
Greedy is defined as: “Wanting or taking all that one can get, with NO THOUGHT of others needs.” So by definition if you are worried about being greedy, and worried about taking from others, you don’t actually have greed.
Think of the greed warning as yet another tactic of that voice in your head. You know the one, the inner critic that is always on you about being good enough? Its job is to keep you worried and fretting so you are distracted from being effective. If you weren’t worried about being greedy what would you do differently? And what might that bring? What new thoughts and experiences might letting go of that fear and fret give you?
Who knows? One possibility is that by not worrying about being greedy you might actually amass more that you could then choose to share. Hmmm…
Shell Tain, The Untangler
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