So what do we do with Money over the holidays? Most of us use it and ignore it at the same time. We spend it with the idea that we will catch up with it in January. Actually, it’s more like April. It takes that long for many people to catch up with, or recover from, their holiday spending.
At the very least it seems we put our money thinking on hold. And yet what do we expect from Money during December? We expect it to be there. We expect it to stretch to meet our needs and desires. We expect it to magically appear. And we expect it to do all this cheerfully. Hmm.
Remember that thing about how we are going to be in relationship with Money all our lives? How about the question: “If we knew we were going to be in relationship with a person forever how would we want that relationship to be?” I’m guessing that we wouldn’t expect anyone we were in relationship with to do what we expect of Money over the holidays.
So what might Money want? What’s on Money’s wish list? You’ll have to ask your Money to find out. (Yes, talking to your Money is a good thing.)
Here’s what I think Money will say to you. I think it wants what everyone really and truly wants. It wants your time and attention. It wants to have a shared experience of deep caring with you. Well, isn’t that what we want from our loved ones? Stuff comes and goes and frankly it’s very few presents that make a lasting impression. What we want is positive time together. Money just wants some of your time and attention. It might even want your acknowledgment and appreciation for the frenzy you put it through during the holidays.
And Money as a loved one? That may be throwing you off but think about it. Sometimes Money doesn’t give us everything we want but neither does family. Sometimes we have to work really hard to keep things going with Money and the same with family. Sometimes Money seems to let us down and so does family. And sometimes Money comes through and helps us, just like family.
Money will be with you longer than family. You will interact with Money every day. What’s the relationship you want? What’s the relationship Money is asking you for?
Oh, and Money has some obstacles in communicating with you, doesn’t it? It can’t talk to you; it has to get your attention in other ways. What if you tried to notice what it might be trying to say? What might that bounced check be saying? What might the pile of unopened bills be saying? And what might the unexpected money that lands in your lap be saying?
So check in with your Money and see what its wish list looks like for this holiday season. Can you possibly fit in giving Money a bit of what it’a asking for now? Maybe there is something on Money’s wish list you could give it?
If you’d like to explore how you and Money can get along together better, give me a call at 503-258-1630 or check out my website at www.shelltain.com
Shell Tain, The Untangler
Thank you Shell. For awhile now I have been using the phrase , “I am dating Money.” I get some very strange looks form people when I say this. As I’m writing this I think I will create a photo album of all the things Money and I have done together. Reminding me of the adventures and fun we have had. A life well spent. Then create a vision board of our future together. Yes, including fun and adventures. Along with increased investments and retirement, rising savings balance, college education for my daughter. May everyone have an amazing relationship with their Money.
What a wonderful idea. Sounds like you and Money are really having a great time together. Hurrah!